Moving is one of the most stressful undertakings a family can experience whether you’re regularly changing living spaces or doing it once every ten years. It disrupts your normal routine to the degree that it can make it inevitable that you’ll clash with at least one loved one during the process – whether that’s a spouse, partner or even your children.

Keeping that in mind, here’s some advice on how you can keep the peace during your next big move.

Be prepared and stay focused

Preparation makes moving easier. It just does. The more organization and planning you do, the less uncertainty you have to deal with. Whether it’s you making the move with friends and family or with a moving company, simply having the knowledge that your important belonging are packed safely and ready to go can go a long way towards taking the edge off. And with less stress, means fewer arguments.

The best way to avoid squabbles is to simply communicate before the move. Divvy up duties, talk to your roommates or family ahead of time and just make sure everyone is on the same page. When everyone’s rowing in the same direction, it makes everything easier.

Be understanding, but have boundaries

Be patient and understanding of those around you when you’re moving. It’s a tiring and physically demanding process; and when you get tired people you can project poor tone and an atmosphere rife for conflict.

Be aware of how you ask people to do things. ‘I need your help with something, do you have a minute,’ or ‘could you please’ can go a long way towards giving people the feeling that they’re not being ridden out on a rail. Most fights start from small comments – which people can make from a totally innocent perspective, but can be perceived as negative or even insulting.

On the other hand, don’t be afraid to put your foot down when someone’s making things more difficult. Keep the attention not on the person’s character or behavior, but more on the task at hand and what you need from them going forward. Be mindful of your tone and try to see things from the other person’s perspective.

Hiring a pro isn’t a bad idea

Moving is hard work and when you have pros doing the job for you, it just makes everything that much easier. They’ll take much of the physical stress out of the process, but they’ll also help you pack belongings and take away a lot of the mental stress associated with it. Trust in them – they’ve been doing this a long time – and then simply sit back, direct them and don’t worry about the next big showdown with your brother in law!

Moves where everyone works together is a painless process and more importantly start your time off in your new home on the right foot. You can lose a lot of your stress through simply hiring professionals.